tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1727115344580451978.post3891363950101542067..comments2023-06-26T07:51:03.763-05:00Comments on SlackerMom: Honesty sucks when you're on the receiving endAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13598030216849629747noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1727115344580451978.post-79699568919341682682010-04-08T18:36:43.841-05:002010-04-08T18:36:43.841-05:00@Patty - Thanks for your comment (and really nice ...@Patty - Thanks for your comment (and really nice compliments *blush*). I love, love your blog - the writing especially but also the design. It's killer! Can't wait to read more.<br /><br />@Josiane - Thanks for the cyber-hug :)<br /><br />@Jill - Welcome! I always love hearing from recovering lawyers. This is exactly why I blog and why I get so personal when I do. It has taken awhile but I know that I'm not alone and it is so heartening to reach out and find other people struggling with similar issues. It gives me strength in so many ways.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13598030216849629747noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1727115344580451978.post-77739338152336169502010-04-08T17:07:18.998-05:002010-04-08T17:07:18.998-05:00Jessica, you have no idea how much this post and y...Jessica, you have no idea how much this post and your first post about lawyering -- I am also a recovering lawyer -- resonates with me (and I really dislike the word "resonate", but it really fits here). It's actually almost scary how much I can relate to your comments.<br /><br />My situation is probably very different, but I have a close family member who basically released years of his frustrations with me in one very unpleasant episode this past Christmas, which came totally out of the blue. I had no idea he held so many resentments towards me. All of them related to my various personality defects, and how things are always about me. It was very painful to hear. <br /><br />Since then, I have been assessing myself (sometimes quite harshly) and wondering how much I need to change. What I have realized is that I am very different around family than I am around friends, and he never gets to see that. Old baggage comes up, and I can be quite unpleasant in my attempts to defend myself in the family unit. I don't need to do this with friends. So, all I can do is hope that he comes to see the other sides of me and also takes some responsibility for his contributions to all of this. It's difficult to step back from so much emotion, but when you do, you can somewhat separate fact from fiction and realize that with family, there is always more drama and old wounds that may have nothing to do with the present. <br /><br />Sorry to gas on (I am also "manic" and talk/write a blue streak), but it was so nice to realize that I'm not alone in thinking the way I do about these things. Oh, and I also loved your comment over at the blog "White blank page" (that's how I found you). <br /><br />Don't worry, this too shall pass!Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16403245010564338333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1727115344580451978.post-92195120127953225702010-04-08T14:05:55.277-05:002010-04-08T14:05:55.277-05:00Big {hugs} for the hard.Big {hugs} for the hard.Josianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12338020889283090260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1727115344580451978.post-65386218305985165872010-04-08T10:37:09.901-05:002010-04-08T10:37:09.901-05:00Hi Jessica...
I hear you. A big "me too"...Hi Jessica...<br /><br />I hear you. A big "me too" on the whole thing about both wanting to hear other people's opinions/observations about ourselves (because it provides additional information) and at the same time, finding it difficult to hear (especially when we perceive the comments as negative and they are phrased in a less-than-NVC way). It can be really tough to figure out who the "stuff" belongs to.<br /><br />I love your writing, your humour and your honesty. Looking forward to reading more.Patty Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11544838434187888746noreply@blogger.com